sameer_14529
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It is necessary because beyond a certain point you require someone special in ur life............
neha20092009
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i dont thing marraige is necessary
now people can live independently
mostly for women after marraige they cant take they decision themself, if their husband tell them to stop doing job they have to lisen no option.
now people can live independently
mostly for women after marraige they cant take they decision themself, if their husband tell them to stop doing job they have to lisen no option.
THE marriage problem assumes importance very early in the life of every man. Many contend that men can live a continent life indefinitely, without being harmed thereby, and such a contention would be upheld by the facts, in the case of some men, but in the majority of instances a man demands a mate. This is a God-given law. You can see it evolving throughout the entire animal world, and from the stand-point of sexuality we belong to the animal world. The instincts and emotions associated with sexual life are shared to a large extent by what we term "the lower animals."
vatsgaurav
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HE marriage problem assumes importance very early in the life of every man. Many contend that men can live a continent life indefinitely, without being harmed thereby, and such a contention would be upheld by the facts, in the case of some men, but in the majority of instances a man demands a mate. This is a God-given law. You can see it evolving throughout the entire animal world, and from the stand-point of sexuality we belong to the animal world. The instincts and emotions associated with sexual life are shared to a large extent by what we term "the lower animals."
Many persons have led continent lives for years, without sustaining any harm by reason of their abstinence. In many such instances, their lives have been exceedingly useful to the community. Such people are the exception, not the rule, and in this instance we are not selecting unusual examples. We are simply discussing the ordinary, average man, as he is.
The sex instinct begins to assert itself at an early age. In many individuals it becomes noticeable far earlier than it should, because of the prudery that is found almost everywhere. The curiosity aroused in childish minds by the secrecy and deception practiced in regard to sex subjects, naturally increases interest in the theme, and consequently the sexual characteristics are prematurely developed in both sexes.
As a result of this evil, boys, and less frequently girls, fall into devitalizing habits. The sexual vice known as masturbation stimulates the premature secretion of the seminal fluid, and after the boy has learned the evil of his way, and is able to control himself, this rich fluid continues to be secreted too rapidly, resulting, in practically every instance, in constant losses. This question will be discussed in detail later on. These facts are presented here to show how present conditions tend to create an abnormal sexual appetite.
If a boy can escape masturbation, he will usually be almost entirely free from nocturnal losses, though some experts maintain that normally they occur from two to four times monthly. How-ever, if masturbation is avoided the sexual appetite will not be so insistent. As a rule men who have maintained a continent life for a long period have also been free from masturbation and the evil which follows thereafter.
We may, however, just as well come out and face the problem squarely and honestly, and acknowledge that marriage is the normal condition for nearly all men. The desire for sexual gratification is the strongest force in human nature. Even the craving for food is less imperative, and often of minor importance. Every healthy, strong, virile man must, therefore, realize the necessity for marriage. He must marry somebody, and should carefully choose his mate early in life. Early marriage is advantageous largely because it saves a man from all the diseases and excesses associated with prostitution, as well as from other evils.
To be sure, the economic question assumes considerable importance when marriage comes up for consideration, but we are not attempting to settle that phase of the problem. If you have avoided masturbation, if you can be satisfied with a continent life and are apparently enjoying a normal degree of vigor and vitality while adhering thereto, there can be no objection to your continuing it. Such temperance, however, is the exception.
We hear much about the attractions of bachelorhood. Single blessedness, so-called, is frequently applauded. But in many instances bachelorhood is associated with immoralities of the worst sort. True enough the bachelor may be rarely strictly virtuous and continent-but more frequently he is the opposite. There are no marital ties to bind him, and he feels free to act as his masculine instincts may dictate, so that not infrequently he preys upon the wives and sisters of his friends and associates.
To be sure we are not so silly as to maintain that a marriage ceremony in itself hallows all sexual relations, or that such a ceremony would definitely, insure that every sexual relation would be beneficial. Neither when speaking of marriage, do we refer to all unions sanctioned by the law. True marriage presupposes a keen and intense love between a man and a woman. It is this love that cements the marital bond and marriage lasts just so long as this strong affection exists. If a man and woman break the laws of sexual life, if they outrage what should be our most holy instincts, then they must suffer the penalty. Love which may have brought to each a divine joy, an ecstatic bliss, disappears, and in its place will come often a feeling of mutual disgust, or even hatred, each for the other. Where such a feeling exists, it is a decree or decision rendered by the Most High that this man and this woman should no longer live together. They have already been divorced, and we would therefore say: What God has rent asunder, let no man join together.
There are some men who cannot marry because of financial reasons. When one is so placed that marriage is practically impossible on this account, what advice can be given?
In many instances where marriage is considered impossible, there are ways and means whereby it might be satisfactorily arranged. But let us admit that there are instances in which a man is compelled to support a mother or sisters, and in which marriage would not allow him to continue to carry responsibilities that he feels are imperatively fastened upon him. Or let us take others in which a satisfactory life partner cannot be secured. What is a man to do under such circumstances?
The average book dealing with this subject will advise a continent life. Most writers will say that such a man must adhere to this strict regime until his circumstances have so changed that he can legally and properly take to himself a wife. The writers of these idealistic volumes forget that they are dealing under such circumstances with human problems that are varied in nature.
It must be admitted that when a man can follow advice of this nature it will generally be the better for him in the end; but we are dealing with human instincts and human passions that often go beyond control. The fact that we are for-bidden marriage because of economic or other reasons does not necessarily take us away from all associations with the opposite sex. And with a virile man such companionship is bound at times to arouse passions and desires that seek satisfaction. What is a man to do under such circumstances? The problem is indeed hard' to solve. The question involved in a situation of this kind is largely as to whether or not the man will be harmed through attempting to lead a continent life, or whether it would pay to incur the risks of disease that attend deviations from the paths of moral rectitude. In other words, are we to follow the usual policy and lay down a definite rule of strict continence to the men who cry for help under such circumstances?
The problem in every instance is varied and individual in nature. As previously stated some men can live a continent life for a great number of years without serious injury to their capacities, mental, moral, or physical. Other men, however, are so constituted that the question of a sexual mate assumes a dominating character that is actually terrifying. Such men will find a continent life practically impossible and, with their particular natures, if they possessed the determination to adhere to a regime of this character it would, perhaps, be productive of injury —though perhaps not more than a certain slight decline in vitality. But under such circumstances we are dealing with what might be termed impossibilities. Such men will not remain continent when temptation comes their way. What are we to advise in such cases?
Where the demand for the associations of marriage are so dominating in character, the situation, regardless of all other conditions, demands marriage. And it is unquestionably better that the marriage should conform to the legal and conventional standards. No matter how you may try to avoid other associations and responsibilities that your instincts crave, you cannot avoid the very definite commands of your cravings for a sexual mate.
The man who finds himself possessed of these imperative sexual demands, if allowed freely to associate with members of the opposite sex, will surely find a mate. There is no question about that. The only way a man of this kind can remain continent is to live the life of a hermit, or not meet enough of the opposite sex, and even under such circumstances there is a strong possibility or even probability of his acquiring secret sexual vices that are fearfully destructive in nature. Therefore, although you may be impressed with the idea that you are economically or otherwise so situated that marriage is impossible, yet when you find yourself mated, you should so arrange your affairs that the legal responsibilities associated therewith can be satisfactorily assumed. There is really no other solution of this problem that is tolerable or possible.
Whatever mistakes you may make, avoid the prostitute and the diseases that she carries. Tainted more in body than in soul, she should be shunned as poison. Remember also that the clandestine prostitute, masquerading under the cloak of decency, perhaps as stage performer, a shop girl, housemaid, or in some other form, is even more dangerous than the street-walker. Furthermore, aside from the dangers of venereal poisoning, intimate relations with women of this sort are destructive to character and mind as well as to body.
The use of a mistress, while it may be free from some of the dangers of other illicit relationships, cannot be regarded as a satisfactory solution of the problem, for many reasons, one that such a plan is not fair to the woman. A due sense of honor would make such a relationship intolerable.
What has' been termed a "free-love union" has often been suggested, but this is equally objectionable. In most cases the term "free love" is only an attempt to justify license. It is a pretty phrase by which to further the purpose of seduction. But when the matter is taken seriously, when the union is based upon the philosophy that love rather than a ceremony sanctifies the marriage relation, and when the couple really live together as in legal marriage, then it really is marriage, and the phrase, "free love," is a misnomer. There is little or no more freedom in a union of this kind than in a legal marriage. When men and women have tried it, they have found that they are just as tightly bound by the conditions of marriage as they would be by the legal tie.
Marriage, therefore, is the only solution of the problem in practically all cases. Bachelorhood in many cases means immorality or secret vices. If immorality, it tends to become promiscuous, and this means almost certain infection. The only normal, the only safe and the only decent relationship is marriage with a pure, good woman whom one respects and whom one loves, and who loves in return. This is a relationship that is conducive to health and honor and self-respect. One sex is necessary to the other, and monogamic marriage is not only the ideal but the only satisfactory form of union.
Many persons have led continent lives for years, without sustaining any harm by reason of their abstinence. In many such instances, their lives have been exceedingly useful to the community. Such people are the exception, not the rule, and in this instance we are not selecting unusual examples. We are simply discussing the ordinary, average man, as he is.
The sex instinct begins to assert itself at an early age. In many individuals it becomes noticeable far earlier than it should, because of the prudery that is found almost everywhere. The curiosity aroused in childish minds by the secrecy and deception practiced in regard to sex subjects, naturally increases interest in the theme, and consequently the sexual characteristics are prematurely developed in both sexes.
As a result of this evil, boys, and less frequently girls, fall into devitalizing habits. The sexual vice known as masturbation stimulates the premature secretion of the seminal fluid, and after the boy has learned the evil of his way, and is able to control himself, this rich fluid continues to be secreted too rapidly, resulting, in practically every instance, in constant losses. This question will be discussed in detail later on. These facts are presented here to show how present conditions tend to create an abnormal sexual appetite.
If a boy can escape masturbation, he will usually be almost entirely free from nocturnal losses, though some experts maintain that normally they occur from two to four times monthly. How-ever, if masturbation is avoided the sexual appetite will not be so insistent. As a rule men who have maintained a continent life for a long period have also been free from masturbation and the evil which follows thereafter.
We may, however, just as well come out and face the problem squarely and honestly, and acknowledge that marriage is the normal condition for nearly all men. The desire for sexual gratification is the strongest force in human nature. Even the craving for food is less imperative, and often of minor importance. Every healthy, strong, virile man must, therefore, realize the necessity for marriage. He must marry somebody, and should carefully choose his mate early in life. Early marriage is advantageous largely because it saves a man from all the diseases and excesses associated with prostitution, as well as from other evils.
To be sure, the economic question assumes considerable importance when marriage comes up for consideration, but we are not attempting to settle that phase of the problem. If you have avoided masturbation, if you can be satisfied with a continent life and are apparently enjoying a normal degree of vigor and vitality while adhering thereto, there can be no objection to your continuing it. Such temperance, however, is the exception.
We hear much about the attractions of bachelorhood. Single blessedness, so-called, is frequently applauded. But in many instances bachelorhood is associated with immoralities of the worst sort. True enough the bachelor may be rarely strictly virtuous and continent-but more frequently he is the opposite. There are no marital ties to bind him, and he feels free to act as his masculine instincts may dictate, so that not infrequently he preys upon the wives and sisters of his friends and associates.
To be sure we are not so silly as to maintain that a marriage ceremony in itself hallows all sexual relations, or that such a ceremony would definitely, insure that every sexual relation would be beneficial. Neither when speaking of marriage, do we refer to all unions sanctioned by the law. True marriage presupposes a keen and intense love between a man and a woman. It is this love that cements the marital bond and marriage lasts just so long as this strong affection exists. If a man and woman break the laws of sexual life, if they outrage what should be our most holy instincts, then they must suffer the penalty. Love which may have brought to each a divine joy, an ecstatic bliss, disappears, and in its place will come often a feeling of mutual disgust, or even hatred, each for the other. Where such a feeling exists, it is a decree or decision rendered by the Most High that this man and this woman should no longer live together. They have already been divorced, and we would therefore say: What God has rent asunder, let no man join together.
There are some men who cannot marry because of financial reasons. When one is so placed that marriage is practically impossible on this account, what advice can be given?
In many instances where marriage is considered impossible, there are ways and means whereby it might be satisfactorily arranged. But let us admit that there are instances in which a man is compelled to support a mother or sisters, and in which marriage would not allow him to continue to carry responsibilities that he feels are imperatively fastened upon him. Or let us take others in which a satisfactory life partner cannot be secured. What is a man to do under such circumstances?
The average book dealing with this subject will advise a continent life. Most writers will say that such a man must adhere to this strict regime until his circumstances have so changed that he can legally and properly take to himself a wife. The writers of these idealistic volumes forget that they are dealing under such circumstances with human problems that are varied in nature.
It must be admitted that when a man can follow advice of this nature it will generally be the better for him in the end; but we are dealing with human instincts and human passions that often go beyond control. The fact that we are for-bidden marriage because of economic or other reasons does not necessarily take us away from all associations with the opposite sex. And with a virile man such companionship is bound at times to arouse passions and desires that seek satisfaction. What is a man to do under such circumstances? The problem is indeed hard' to solve. The question involved in a situation of this kind is largely as to whether or not the man will be harmed through attempting to lead a continent life, or whether it would pay to incur the risks of disease that attend deviations from the paths of moral rectitude. In other words, are we to follow the usual policy and lay down a definite rule of strict continence to the men who cry for help under such circumstances?
The problem in every instance is varied and individual in nature. As previously stated some men can live a continent life for a great number of years without serious injury to their capacities, mental, moral, or physical. Other men, however, are so constituted that the question of a sexual mate assumes a dominating character that is actually terrifying. Such men will find a continent life practically impossible and, with their particular natures, if they possessed the determination to adhere to a regime of this character it would, perhaps, be productive of injury —though perhaps not more than a certain slight decline in vitality. But under such circumstances we are dealing with what might be termed impossibilities. Such men will not remain continent when temptation comes their way. What are we to advise in such cases?
Where the demand for the associations of marriage are so dominating in character, the situation, regardless of all other conditions, demands marriage. And it is unquestionably better that the marriage should conform to the legal and conventional standards. No matter how you may try to avoid other associations and responsibilities that your instincts crave, you cannot avoid the very definite commands of your cravings for a sexual mate.
The man who finds himself possessed of these imperative sexual demands, if allowed freely to associate with members of the opposite sex, will surely find a mate. There is no question about that. The only way a man of this kind can remain continent is to live the life of a hermit, or not meet enough of the opposite sex, and even under such circumstances there is a strong possibility or even probability of his acquiring secret sexual vices that are fearfully destructive in nature. Therefore, although you may be impressed with the idea that you are economically or otherwise so situated that marriage is impossible, yet when you find yourself mated, you should so arrange your affairs that the legal responsibilities associated therewith can be satisfactorily assumed. There is really no other solution of this problem that is tolerable or possible.
Whatever mistakes you may make, avoid the prostitute and the diseases that she carries. Tainted more in body than in soul, she should be shunned as poison. Remember also that the clandestine prostitute, masquerading under the cloak of decency, perhaps as stage performer, a shop girl, housemaid, or in some other form, is even more dangerous than the street-walker. Furthermore, aside from the dangers of venereal poisoning, intimate relations with women of this sort are destructive to character and mind as well as to body.
The use of a mistress, while it may be free from some of the dangers of other illicit relationships, cannot be regarded as a satisfactory solution of the problem, for many reasons, one that such a plan is not fair to the woman. A due sense of honor would make such a relationship intolerable.
What has' been termed a "free-love union" has often been suggested, but this is equally objectionable. In most cases the term "free love" is only an attempt to justify license. It is a pretty phrase by which to further the purpose of seduction. But when the matter is taken seriously, when the union is based upon the philosophy that love rather than a ceremony sanctifies the marriage relation, and when the couple really live together as in legal marriage, then it really is marriage, and the phrase, "free love," is a misnomer. There is little or no more freedom in a union of this kind than in a legal marriage. When men and women have tried it, they have found that they are just as tightly bound by the conditions of marriage as they would be by the legal tie.
Marriage, therefore, is the only solution of the problem in practically all cases. Bachelorhood in many cases means immorality or secret vices. If immorality, it tends to become promiscuous, and this means almost certain infection. The only normal, the only safe and the only decent relationship is marriage with a pure, good woman whom one respects and whom one loves, and who loves in return. This is a relationship that is conducive to health and honor and self-respect. One sex is necessary to the other, and monogamic marriage is not only the ideal but the only satisfactory form of union.
vikrantverma
Vikrant Verma
Is marriage the only way for a man and woman to live together?
It is an enforced way to make sure you abide by a decision you have made. We in India study in boys or girls schools. Socializing between men and women is (in general) frowned upon. So the majority of us go in for arranged marriages. Everywhere I see miserable people forced to remain together. They made the wrong choice of partner. But now they are forced to live with it.
Most people are unhappy simply because they do not have an 'exit option'. If a medical drug had such a high failure rate would we take it? Then why do we tolerate this institution of marriage which has such a high divorce rate?
A divorce is so messy and heart breaking and expensive. And frowned upon by society. I think thats why the theory of the 'next life' was developed. So people would not feel so bad about living a miserable life this time around!
But what if this is the only life we have? Should we be forced to live it this way? Or go through a messy divorce? Is all this necessary? Why can't we improve the system? Why can't we explore alternatives? Why can't we be free?
Even staying together for the sake of the kids is a silly argument. It is better for the kids to see two happy people than two miserable ones. Kids need to be given hope. They need to think life is worth living. If they see two miserable parents they will lose hope. They will think there is nothing more to life than misery. Then they will become self destructive. They may turn to drugs. So it is vital they have good role models in their parents
The first thing we should do to improve the system is make all schools co-educational. Boys and girls get used to being with each other. Boys and girls will begin to see each other as human beings and not objects to experiment with for love or desire. They will have a better idea of what kind of person of the opposite sex they get along better with. They will recognize that they are compatible with some people and not with others. They will learn to choose.
Then we should teach boys and girls the basics of relationships. That the decision to be with someone is also another decision. It should not be life threatening. Or life long. If you do not wish it to be. The top priority should always be to find someone you are happy with. And who is happy with you. We have just one life to live
One fine day you will meet someone you think is perfect for you. Then you will agree to live together . If you decide to have kids ( after being together a mandatory 3 years) you will be covered by 'the agreement'
And if after all this experience you still make the wrong decision you do not have to suffer for life. You can always change your decision. And make another attempt at living a decent happy life.
The kids (if any) will be looked after by 'the agreement' between both partners. The agreement will be enforced by a private court who will dismiss frivolous petitions immediately.
Frivolous 'divorces' will be rare since the schools will emphasize the importance of making a commitment. Relationships will be a major topic of study in all schools.
Thereafter a couple is assumed to understand the ramifications of terminating a relationship and hence will take the 'extreme step' of termination of the relationship very seriously
Only then the 'fast track' agreement comes into action. The agreement is enforced by private courts and is equipped to first of all suggest top notch counselling. Only when all else fails is the split taken up for debate and immediate action
For example people who do not contribute to looking after their kids will be levied severe penalties. If the woman has left her job to look after her kids (by mutual consent) she will be looked after in the manner in which she looked after the kids when they were together and so on
This way women need not stay with violent husbands. They will always be protected by ' the agreement' (which mainly applies when there are kids or when the man or woman does not work by mutual consent). Women need never be saddled with chauvinist husbands. Kids are forbidden for the first three years of living together. (until the couple are reasonably sure they get along)
The goal of life should be to live it happily. Isn't it better to make our own mistakes rather than make mistakes forced upon us by society?
It is an enforced way to make sure you abide by a decision you have made. We in India study in boys or girls schools. Socializing between men and women is (in general) frowned upon. So the majority of us go in for arranged marriages. Everywhere I see miserable people forced to remain together. They made the wrong choice of partner. But now they are forced to live with it.
Most people are unhappy simply because they do not have an 'exit option'. If a medical drug had such a high failure rate would we take it? Then why do we tolerate this institution of marriage which has such a high divorce rate?
A divorce is so messy and heart breaking and expensive. And frowned upon by society. I think thats why the theory of the 'next life' was developed. So people would not feel so bad about living a miserable life this time around!
But what if this is the only life we have? Should we be forced to live it this way? Or go through a messy divorce? Is all this necessary? Why can't we improve the system? Why can't we explore alternatives? Why can't we be free?
Even staying together for the sake of the kids is a silly argument. It is better for the kids to see two happy people than two miserable ones. Kids need to be given hope. They need to think life is worth living. If they see two miserable parents they will lose hope. They will think there is nothing more to life than misery. Then they will become self destructive. They may turn to drugs. So it is vital they have good role models in their parents
The first thing we should do to improve the system is make all schools co-educational. Boys and girls get used to being with each other. Boys and girls will begin to see each other as human beings and not objects to experiment with for love or desire. They will have a better idea of what kind of person of the opposite sex they get along better with. They will recognize that they are compatible with some people and not with others. They will learn to choose.
Then we should teach boys and girls the basics of relationships. That the decision to be with someone is also another decision. It should not be life threatening. Or life long. If you do not wish it to be. The top priority should always be to find someone you are happy with. And who is happy with you. We have just one life to live
One fine day you will meet someone you think is perfect for you. Then you will agree to live together . If you decide to have kids ( after being together a mandatory 3 years) you will be covered by 'the agreement'
And if after all this experience you still make the wrong decision you do not have to suffer for life. You can always change your decision. And make another attempt at living a decent happy life.
The kids (if any) will be looked after by 'the agreement' between both partners. The agreement will be enforced by a private court who will dismiss frivolous petitions immediately.
Frivolous 'divorces' will be rare since the schools will emphasize the importance of making a commitment. Relationships will be a major topic of study in all schools.
Thereafter a couple is assumed to understand the ramifications of terminating a relationship and hence will take the 'extreme step' of termination of the relationship very seriously
Only then the 'fast track' agreement comes into action. The agreement is enforced by private courts and is equipped to first of all suggest top notch counselling. Only when all else fails is the split taken up for debate and immediate action
For example people who do not contribute to looking after their kids will be levied severe penalties. If the woman has left her job to look after her kids (by mutual consent) she will be looked after in the manner in which she looked after the kids when they were together and so on
This way women need not stay with violent husbands. They will always be protected by ' the agreement' (which mainly applies when there are kids or when the man or woman does not work by mutual consent). Women need never be saddled with chauvinist husbands. Kids are forbidden for the first three years of living together. (until the couple are reasonably sure they get along)
The goal of life should be to live it happily. Isn't it better to make our own mistakes rather than make mistakes forced upon us by society?
Vinothkhanna
Vinothkhanna Arulprakasam
Hi Everybody i am Vinothkhanna.
Everyone gave different opinion ....S i would like to share my view also...
Marriage is long time derivative contract as we all know as finance guys. This contract should not have any expiry date here the underlying asset should be Pure Love and mutual understanding....
If either of the two asset not there the contract ends. No premium it can have. Finally the contract should be canceled.
It depends upon each one of us view, Some may treat it as fulfillment of life and some may think its a predefined contract to share urself with ur partner and viceversa.
to me its second.
thank you
Everyone gave different opinion ....S i would like to share my view also...
Marriage is long time derivative contract as we all know as finance guys. This contract should not have any expiry date here the underlying asset should be Pure Love and mutual understanding....
If either of the two asset not there the contract ends. No premium it can have. Finally the contract should be canceled.
It depends upon each one of us view, Some may treat it as fulfillment of life and some may think its a predefined contract to share urself with ur partner and viceversa.
to me its second.
thank you
no, marriage is not necessary at all. all of us have a purpose of life and we need to achieve it. exp- i have to do smthg for the good of mankind. so i can do it in many ways. also another purpose is to take mankind to the next generation. so either u adopt a child or give birth...for that u might require a partner for this purpose. it isnt necessary that u marry that partner.
hardik_gothi
New member
yes..it is a gr8 thing to enjoy.. all d best guys.. hav a gr8 marraige..
sureshkumar1978
Suresh Kumar
Yes
Marriage is also necessary at a particular age of (i.e. from 25 to 32), without marriage the person can not understand/recongnise /realize the reponsibility of family/ or the work to be necesserily done by him. He/she can not judgement the others fillings about them.
Marriage is also necessary at a particular age of (i.e. from 25 to 32), without marriage the person can not understand/recongnise /realize the reponsibility of family/ or the work to be necesserily done by him. He/she can not judgement the others fillings about them.
AnjanaAshok
New member
Marriage is very necessary for the sustainance of our society and culture
vidurkapoor
New member
marriage is not necessary!!!! its just constitutionalising your love for the other that may well not be required!!!!
Marriages are made in Heaven
"Remember that a successful marriage depends on two things: finding the right person and being the right person" quote. Do we really know the actual definition of a successful marriage? If not than lets look for it and see what conclusion we can draw. We often say that someone somewhere is made for you and the day you come across that person you feel that that he or she is the one you have been waiting for. But later we see that due to lack of understanding and mental compatibility they move apart. So how can we say that they were the perfect match since they didn't gave any effort to understand each other. So it's important you know your partner. There are people who get physically attracted and fall for each other and eventually end up getting married. But later on when they see their wavelength not matching they easily get separated without a second thought. In today's generation we see these incidents more compare to earlier generation. And this is more due to the changing social scenario. With so many things to divert your attention you really don't know what to do.
Marriage is not just coming together of two individuals. There is much more to it. To sustain a marriage it is important that there is effort from both sides than only a marriage can carry on. A successful marriage is like a good recipe whose main ingredients are love, commitment, understanding, concern and togetherness. If you can include these aspects in your married life you can find happiness in your marriage. Andre Maurois once aptly said, "A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short." Which is so true. When we talk about mental compatibility between husband and wife we have seen that not only incase of arrange marriage this problem exist where both of them were unknown to each other before marriage but even after many years of courtship in love marriages this problem exist because when we meet before marriage we are at our best to impress the other person. And we start accepting each other the way we like to see each other. But gradually after marriage when we slip into our natural self that time we have to accept each other as we are. And in most of the cases the real self is not what we wanted to see and then begins the contradiction with the person whom we have loved and with whom I have to spend my life. So it's important that when you love a person love him or her the way he or she is and not the way you want him or her to be. Than only you can be happy.
A happy married life calls for constant commitment and concern for each other. There are few small and minute aspects, which we tend to forget in our married life, as we get busy with the daily chores. So at times it is important to indulge in those minute details of a married life, which will constantly remind each other of the love and concern being present. We can conclude by the quote of Barnett Brickner, which says it, all that "Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate."
"Remember that a successful marriage depends on two things: finding the right person and being the right person" quote. Do we really know the actual definition of a successful marriage? If not than lets look for it and see what conclusion we can draw. We often say that someone somewhere is made for you and the day you come across that person you feel that that he or she is the one you have been waiting for. But later we see that due to lack of understanding and mental compatibility they move apart. So how can we say that they were the perfect match since they didn't gave any effort to understand each other. So it's important you know your partner. There are people who get physically attracted and fall for each other and eventually end up getting married. But later on when they see their wavelength not matching they easily get separated without a second thought. In today's generation we see these incidents more compare to earlier generation. And this is more due to the changing social scenario. With so many things to divert your attention you really don't know what to do.
Marriage is not just coming together of two individuals. There is much more to it. To sustain a marriage it is important that there is effort from both sides than only a marriage can carry on. A successful marriage is like a good recipe whose main ingredients are love, commitment, understanding, concern and togetherness. If you can include these aspects in your married life you can find happiness in your marriage. Andre Maurois once aptly said, "A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short." Which is so true. When we talk about mental compatibility between husband and wife we have seen that not only incase of arrange marriage this problem exist where both of them were unknown to each other before marriage but even after many years of courtship in love marriages this problem exist because when we meet before marriage we are at our best to impress the other person. And we start accepting each other the way we like to see each other. But gradually after marriage when we slip into our natural self that time we have to accept each other as we are. And in most of the cases the real self is not what we wanted to see and then begins the contradiction with the person whom we have loved and with whom I have to spend my life. So it's important that when you love a person love him or her the way he or she is and not the way you want him or her to be. Than only you can be happy.
A happy married life calls for constant commitment and concern for each other. There are few small and minute aspects, which we tend to forget in our married life, as we get busy with the daily chores. So at times it is important to indulge in those minute details of a married life, which will constantly remind each other of the love and concern being present. We can conclude by the quote of Barnett Brickner, which says it, all that "Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate."
harry2learn
Hari Krishna
yes! Marrage is 100% necessary. As a human beeing we need to have certain commitments so that we can balence and protect our society. If dont have those commitkments and if we are free from responsibilities, most of us will damage the society.
Bishwajit
Bishwajit Bhakat
As we grow up our parents come running after us to get married. Is it really neccessary to get married? I cant understand why is it required that we should have a stamp in a realtionship so that other can understand that me and my love are really in love.
I mean y cant let the relationship be as it is going : no bars, no holds, wish as you want.
Well according to me only insecure persons get married. I mean if you love a person and have in him/her then why is it necessary to have it been written on stamp paper ? People say Marriage is a holy relationship, it is about faith, it is about trust, it is about spending entire life with someone. So if we are having trust in someone then why is it necessary to get married and to make that person get bound to us
I mean y cant let the relationship be as it is going : no bars, no holds, wish as you want.
Well according to me only insecure persons get married. I mean if you love a person and have in him/her then why is it necessary to have it been written on stamp paper ? People say Marriage is a holy relationship, it is about faith, it is about trust, it is about spending entire life with someone. So if we are having trust in someone then why is it necessary to get married and to make that person get bound to us