I love being married. I was very, very careful to make a wise choice rather than an irrational, emotional choice. Even though I love her deeply. I need to be married just as I need a home. I do not have the necessary parts or perspectives to be complete in our world without her. I do think that marriage should be a little longer commitment than the house. I am in my ninth home and still with my first wife (21 years). She is mobile, the homes were not. Just as I do not like to live with other families, I prefer to not share my wife, who completes me, with others. I also prefer new construction and then let me live in the filth I create rather than someone elses dirt and grime. I do not want a used wife.
Marriage is not what the other brings to the table. It is about what I bring to the relationship. It is about being open, vulnerable, and giving. Anytime I find myself wondering what she doesn't do for me, I need to look to me and see what I am doing wrong.