Is marriage necessary?

God Almighty has created and designed this entire world through a specific system, which cannot be denied and ignored at any stage of life. If we don't act or behave according to the will of Allah, we can't lead a true and successful life. Your question that is marriage necessary to go through the activities of life can be answered in these terms.
Marriage is one of the activities imposed by God Almighty. A married person remains involved in his house, wife, children and other relations. He is very well aware that he will have to work hard to cope up his responsibilities in a nice manner. He also knows that he will have to take care the needs and demands of these relations as well. To achieve all these things he works, remains busy and involved round the clock. On the other hand the unmarried person has nothing to do with these responsibilities and he remains free. But his life has no goal and purpose and he bears a great deal of boredom. So we can say to lead a good and balanced life marriage is necessary to go through activities of life
 
Well we all have our own views,and everyone is entitled to their views,just as I am to mine.Here is what i think about marriage,been thru it for 28 years with the same wife,and touchwood will go on right till th eend of my life.



Abroad live in is common.They get to know each other well before marriage,and have sex too.There remains nothing unknown to each of the partners.Then they decide to marry,and even then so many of those marriages fail?What went wrong?No clear cut answers.
Marriage is a sacred bond,whose gifts are the children born out of it,not of lust ,but of love.Slowly the relationship is not of husband and wife,but moves to the child and mother,and child and father.Both man and woman have to make adjustments in their life to bring up the children.Gone are the late night parties,and cards wtih friends.You have to take the child to the circus,park,Zoo, where u dont want to go,but go for the sake of yr child.The joy on the child's face is more than the time u could have spent instead with yr friends ! Kids exams means it is your exams,and his holdiays, the whole family takes a hp;iday during the child's summer vacation.So basically the life revolves around the children.

Marraige is adjusting,growing up,putting the needs of yr spouse and children before your own,of having sleepness nights when the child or the spouse is sick,sasural duties,this applies for the man and the woman.

Marraige is not only about sex.Sex is available dime a dozen outside,pay and smile, just like u eat food in a restaurant.Marriage is about a family,and making sacrifices,of spending less on one self,and spending more on the needs of the kids education, yr wife,and saving money for the future.

So if u want to have a carrerr or fun in life,and no responsibilities, dont marry,ever please,and spoil a poor woman;s life, and a kids life.You can keep a maid for food, or eat in the restaurants,have sex with collegues, live in, have a party every night,in short be wild and sow yr oats.Once the man marries, he takes the responsibility not only of his wife, but also of the coming children and the finances.

Women are biologically made by God to bear children,and it is the mother who can bring up the child best.She only can conceive and bear the child.This duty has not been given to the males.She produces the milk,which feeds the child,and the poorest of the ladies has milk provided by the lord,even if she cant afford the Farex and other Baby foods.Nothing like a mother to hold her child to her bosom.A child's cry brings out the milk automatically from the bosom of the mother.She knows best from the child's cry that it is the cry of hunger,or of sickness,or of a earache.Because she has kept the child in her womb for 9 months, and felt it grow inside her,attached from day one with the umbical cord..

But these days,girls dont want to get married, put carreer before marriage and eventual motherhood.And to bear and bring up a child,means their career goes for a spin.But they dont understand,only they can bear abd give birth to a child, not a man,by any chance.the more u delay,the more nature makes it difficult for you to have one.

So marriage is a bonding of love,understanding,begetting children out of love and marriage,of sacrifices of personal and professional nature.

There is no guarantee in a job,nor in your own business,so how can there be a guarantee in marriage.We have to work hard,adjust to each others differences,and make an effort to make it work.

I may be wrong.Because I am an old fashioned guy,so be it.I am entitled to my views,just as you all are to yours
 
Is Marriage Necessary?

The answer seems to be, in practical and empirical terms, no:

Married couples, whose numbers have been declining for decades as a proportion of American households, have finally slipped into a minority, according to an analysis of new census figures by The New York Times.

The American Community Survey, released this month by the Census Bureau, found that 49.7 percent, or 55.2 million, of the nation’s 111.1 million households in 2005 were made up of married couples — with and without children — just shy of a majority and down from more than 52 percent five years earlier.

Similar trends have been observed in East Asia (warning: large PDF)

There is a moral side to this question as well: should people get married? Is life better, for individuals and for society at large, when people get married?

Those are big questions, which for centuries have tended to be answered in the affirmative by most cultures in the world. But things change, social practices transform, expectations shift. So, now, young people take longer and tend to live together before they marry, or avoid the institution altogether - though the article states: "The numbers by no means suggests marriage is dead or necessarily that a tipping point has been reached. The total number of married couples is higher than ever, and most Americans eventually marry." But, at the very least, the attraction of marriage, to young people, seems to be weakening (even as gay people struggle to gain access to it!).

If that is true, if marriage is, in some ways, declining, is that a good or a bad thing? Let me do the Taoist v. Confucian thing here.

A Taoist would probably not see much of a problem here. Changing social practices might simply be considered a "natural" development of the "Way of humankind." Nothing, except Way itself, is eternal. There may be good facets to changing marriage patterns. Sociologists will point out that the change can be attributed, to a significant degree, to women's liberation. With better employment opportunities, women do not need to be married to live a materially comfortable life. So why rush? Or why even bother to begin with?

Of course, a Taoist would not take a hard-line "anti-marriage" position. Rather, the sensibility would be: if it seems right, do it. There can be a kind of "naturalness" to married life (I do not mean to reify "nature" here). In my own case, I tend toward Taoism but have been married for twenty-six years. There are various ways in which my married-ness has become an expression of my Te - the integral place I have in the vastness of Way. It is central to my personal Tao - the path of life that has unfolded before me. And that's fine. A Taoist understanding, however, would not assume that that would be true for everyone. It just works out that way sometimes.

Confucians, however, would, at first, seen the decline of marriage as a serious problem. They understand Tao as an organic human order, centering of careful cultivation of close loving relationships; and marriage has been central to that order in the Confucian mind. This is an obvious point: Confucians would hold that we cannot construct a coherent personal identity without being embedded in closely knit social networks. And, it must also be said, carrying on the family line is something mentioned by both Confucius and Mencius.

We might be able to reassure Confucians that changing marriage practices do not spell the end of the civilized world. At a more abstract level, what matters most for Confucianism is that we have social networks through which we can develop our humanity. It is conceivable that social networks outside traditional family structures could fulfill this purpose in in the spirit, if not the precise expectation, of Confucian thought. So, if one attended to other family relationships (parents, grandparents, siblings, relatives, etc.) and also built loving connections to friends and acquaintances, that could be sufficient as an avenue for the cultivation of humanity. In short, one could work toward Confucian moral good without being married.

The family line thing might be a bit harder. Seems to me that this might be one of those things, like the outmoded bias against women, that must be jettisoned from the original Confucianism in order to adapt it to the modern world. Does that go too far? If we let go of that must we give up on the project of making Confucius relevant?

As my daughter would say: whatever. When I think about the decline of, or maybe we should just say the change in, marriage practices, I do not fret (it's the Taoist in me). I think Confucianism is still applicable. It tells us that our moral selves will not be found in some grand, transcendental experience but, rather, they will be created in our daily interactions with those closest to us. That works, married or not.
 
I think marriage is necessary because of two reasons one, that man by nature desires not only social contact but harmonious and joyous companionship, such a need is fulfilled by marriage, and second, like bricks building a house, marriages are the basic building blocks of families which in turn are the basic building blocks of societies, which form civilizations, granted that two people could live together quite harmoniously but no relationship no matter how secure provides the stable environment of a marriage.
 
roshcrazy said:
at some point of lyf[at a certain age], u need sum1's full support and care...its at a certain age wen its impossible 2 stay alone..u need a partner..rather in gen. too;there are situations which makes 1 feel the need of a partner...

wen 1 is married; a partner is able 2 dedicate lotsa tym to the other..its nt tht wen 1s nt married they dont give to each other..but marriage confirms commitment towards each other..a sense of security tht both partners will be thr for each other..thts wht i feel...
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hii,

I think so it all about happines u do love marriage or arrange marriage but u should be happy with wt u are doing.
 
Well the view may change for different culture..In Indian society the...the bond is more stronger after marriage..so marriage a value addition ;) to ur love
 
marriage is good for companionship at later part of life...one must get married... not for bodily pleasures but more for companionship later in life
 
Marriage is firstly a display of commitment to an individual. It does not signify love, because love should be present before marriage.Marriage brings a sense of security.
 
Marriages are made in heaven or so we assume. But in truth marriage is a mere social custom developed in order to maintain sexual discipline in society.I guess even without social license people are intelligent enough to select the partner that suits them best and keep their sexual life in order; do we need an external force to govern us in this area? Look at nature for that matter, do plants and animals marry?
 
Hello to every one,

But obvious yaar marriage is very very .... important in life. medically, no one lives without it. Religiously every religion says marriage is compulsory to avoid sins.......... as well as evry body in the world is selfish except your life partner..........
 
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