Arranged or Love Marrage ???

It’s very easy to fall in love and then marry
But
Very difficult to marry and then fall in love…you need a *heart* here.

Only *fools* fall in love with looks……a person who truly loves will fall in love with an individual as a person and accept the way he/she is
Looks will change over the years……your heart wont…

*ugly* or not….your soul should be beautiful….and that’s what matters the most

But unfortunately…*some people* are * too dumb* to understand all this!!!


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You can take love marriage for granted…..but not an arranged marriage…..you will always try harder to make an arranged marriage work as compared to a love marriage……In love marriages, you always end up blaming each other for all the things that are going wrong.
 
ohh...kkkkk.... wanna c all d fun! hope der's more 2 come.
well, as far as arranged marraiges go der's very less space 2 knw each other. n wen u talk abt "looks", i guess duin an arranged marraige all our parents n ourselves make decision is on d ability 2 earn, looks n family!
so, whr does one come 2 knw how d other is by "heart"????
but one good thing about arranged marraiges is that wen its not working, we have people like our family, society n others 2 BLAME... rather than urself ;)
 
Ok, let me give u one verdict which i have always believed to be true. How you adjust in a marriage solely depends upon how much can u adjust with ur spouse. Some people are very comfortable with love marriage, whilst some are with arranged marriage.

Like, those who are comfortable with love marriage would argue that love marriage gives u a chance to know ur would-be in advance and u can decide the person with whom u want to spend the rest of ur life, acc to ur nature. The two of u can adjust accordingly. There is a chance to reform and if nothing works out, u can call off the relationship. Atleast it won't be a divorce.

They feel that arranged marriage is a place where u do not get to meet ur spouse much and the time is very short to know his/her nature. Most households, do not give much permission to interact and the two are more or less like strangers. So, love actually begins after marriage and if the nature are too much incompatible, then, it can lead to divorce. Basically it becomes a sort of a compromise.


Now, there are these other class of people who believe that arranged marriage is better.... They feel, that it saves them all the tension and pyar-wyar mein pachas jhanjhat hain. They feel that people dun get committed unless they take "saat fere" and love can be posible even after marriage. Moreover, they feel that people who start with love marriage, eventually get bored.....

So, in the end, it depends upon the mentality of the people. However, i just feel that whether arranged or love, u just have to try to adjust to make the marriage work !! You have to "work" in a relationship... whther love or arranged, whether before or after marriage....

That is the only way, relationships work....

As they say real love thrives not in good times, but in bad times, when there are difficulties. Everyone stays with u in good times, but its the bad times, that test the foundation of ur relationship.
 
too cute said:
It’s very easy to fall in love and then marry
But Very difficult to marry and then fall in love…you need a *heart* here.
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What happens when you find after 5 years that you can't fall in love with that particular person?? Stuck in a rut you can't get out of, eh? :aj:


too cute said:
Only *fools* fall in love with looks……a person who truly loves will fall in love with an individual as a person and accept the way he/she is
Looks will change over the years……your heart wont…

*ugly* or not….your soul should be beautiful….and that’s what matters the most

But unfortunately…*some people* are * too dumb* to understand all this!!!
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Completely agree; never said anything to the contrary.

Unless of course you're trying to put words into my mouth.... :aj:


too cute said:
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You can take love marriage for granted…..but not an arranged marriage…..you will always try harder to make an arranged marriage work as compared to a love marriage……In love marriages, you always end up blaming each other for all the things that are going wrong.
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That's a load of cr@p, and you know it. :aj:
Why would someone choose to make an arranged marriage work harder than a love marriage? On what premise do you base that statement on?

I think we can all take it as a subjective statement you make, based upon your own opinions and convictions. Surely that doesn't allow you to make all-encompassing blanket statements like "you WILL...." :aj:
 
Well my vote goes to Love Marriage - coz love is the most wonderful feeling tht cn ever happen to anyone...nd moreover love marriage definitely scores over arranged marriage since u already knw a person in and out in a love marriage nd for an arranged marriage this phase begins only after marriage...

Murtuza.
 
I and my wife fell in love with each other in college, and were lucky enough to have our marriage blessed and arranged by our parents.

After three years, our love and respect for each other has grown tremendously and we keep discovering new aspects in each other. I strongly believe that relationships have to be built on trust and openness. You have to work to make an intimate arrangement like marriage work. You have to give up quite a few things, but what you gain in return will be worth much much more.

That's my two cents (There are many more pennies where that came from, but I will save them for later!)

Anand
 
i prefer love marriage...coz i dont thnk its possible 2 liv all life 2 d fullest wid sum1 u dont luv...dont wanna exaggerate much..!!~!
 
anandsebastin said:
I and my wife fell in love with each other in college, and were lucky enough to have our marriage blessed and arranged by our parents.

After three years, our love and respect for each other has grown tremendously and we keep discovering new aspects in each other. I strongly believe that relationships have to be built on trust and openness. You have to work to make an intimate arrangement like marriage work. You have to give up quite a few things, but what you gain in return will be worth much much more.

That's my two cents (There are many more pennies where that came from, but I will save them for later!)

Anand
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That sounds real cute, Anand.....I wish you both all the best for the future! :aj:
 
Nothing is perfect in life and nothing is permanent in life.

Both arranged and love marriage has its pros and cons.
but i still fail to understand th concept of arranged marriages.
if a certain marriage is falling apart, both th individuals shud b mature enough to call it quits and move over it.
 
Hi,
I am new to this site and finding it an interesting one.
Well, as far as the story of Love marriage goes, i want to say that i am getting married to a girl with whom i m in love for past 5 years. It's a good feeling that you are marrying someone whom you know well. In arranged one, you never know what girl/ boy are you getting married to and it may take lots of time and energy to understand each other... in some cases, it may take whole of your life and you dont have many options in our society o rectify that mistake.
So, if u r in love you always have an advantage of knowing ur partner b4 marriage
:SugarwareZ-225:
 
Its accepted that a) Not all love marriages have a happy ending. and b) not all arranged marriages have a happy ending!

So its obvious that its not whether arranged or love which determines the success of marriage life.

Love marriage and Arranged marriage have its own pros and cons.

What actually happens in arranged marriage is, parents go find some "SUITABLE" girl/boy for their children. Now all says parents only choose the BEST for the children.I Agree. But HOW does the parents know how good the person they have selected is?? They have found the boy/girl via some newspaper ad,matrimonial sites or via some brokers. And once they find a mathcing profile they call the candidates parents and meets then and talks and arranges and fixes marriage..Parents will be guiding the candidate with their behaviour at the time of meeting.. and the meetings will be very short periods of time. How can we expect out parents to judje the candidate in such a short period of time??? Parents have every chance of choosing the wrong person for their kid though its un intentional!

There are some cases in which parents will be knowing all about the candidate via friends or some other contact.But thats not the case always! If thats the case, then okey fine. But very few marriages happen like that with parents have a detailed knowledge about the candidate from diff sources.

Sometimes who the parents finding out for their children will not be a suitable one. Its clear that arranged marriage is not gonna find the best partner for you.


Coming to love marriage. Persons will be knowing each other very well before marriage. No body marries 1 week after they fell in love! It might take years before actual marriage is happened. So that time relaxation they have, its very important to know each other. They can judge each other and see if he/she is the right partner for you. Now don't say "KIDS ALWAYS MAKES MISTAKE!!". Whats the logic behind this? Its a true fact that children are smarter than their parents. SO their is no harm if we let them find their own partners.



So i think its love marriage which can help one find a better partner for life. After all, its we who is gonna live with the partner our lifetime.So there is no harm in letting us chose our own partner.

Cheers To All Lovers In MP...

Thanks,

Cijo Thomas
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cijothomas said:
Now don't say "KIDS ALWAYS MAKES MISTAKE!!".
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Not at all. On the contrary, I think kids are made because of mistakes :aj1:

Nice 'n sensible post though....except for the 'candidate' bit which sounds like you're going for a frekin job interview :aj:
 
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LOVE MARRIAGE or ARRANGE MARRIAGE are part of LIFE and the kind of thing that we believe.

It is said that "MARRIAGES' are MADE in HEAVEN."

Inspite of these the Marriages are broken.

WHY?????

B'coz Marriages are on made in heaven, but we need to perform it.

It's upto us to make our love and marriage life go happily and smoothly.

So, LOVE or ARRANGE marriage doesn't make n e difference its' upto us to make it go simple and happy married life forever.

My Best Wishes to all, and May there MARRIAGE LIFE remains happily forever.

THANKS

KUNAL
 
Well both are the same ,u either get majorly screw#$ or u end up being the happiest man alive...Well its all about having the RIGHT ONE...i screwed up many times but i finally found D ONE....cheers
 
well in al dese DESTINY mattrs alot......
so ma cmplete belief is on DESTINY !!!!!!!!

n p'ple in luv hrdly fite 2 get each othr like on family isues n all....bt i think wen u in truly love u won't leave struglin fr ur love n God wil b wid u no mattr wateva my hppn, bt if ur love is true, else fuhget it !!!

n who syz Arnge Mariage hs hapy endin i hv seen mny break ups !!!!!!!

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so Ultimately itz Destiny or ur True Love u cn chnge ur Destiny !!!!!!!
 
Well i do agree with Pooja boss. if its in in ur destiny that ur arrange marrage will b successfull then it will b or else Love marrage. Well i would like to suggest that atleast once, every one should love somebody or the other and give a chanceto our destiny. then se wether that person is actually that u want really want in ur life or not. but atleast having some experience in loving some one will definately help u in long run. it will help u in understanding ur so called arranged wife and the situation will not take worst turn as u will b having experience.

what d u say guys?
 
well ..........i vote for love marriage ...........par kya kareen ............apun ko kaun jheelega................!!!!!!!!!!..........every time i make miss calls or lines are already busy ............:(
 
hey of coures arrange marrage coz we cant go against our parents and in todayz world parents are also with the love marrage so why not to take parents permission
 
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