I’ve been thinking about how messed up modern dating is, and I’m convinced men are getting the short end of the stick. Women today act like they don’t need us, and I think that’s flipped the game against guys. Hear me out—this might ruffle feathers, but let’s talk.
Back in the day, relationships had clear roles: men provided, women supported. Now, women make their own money and have endless options on dating apps. I’ve seen stats saying women bail on over half of planned dates—56%, to be exact. As a guy, it’s frustrating when you put in effort just to get flaked on. It feels like women hold all the cards because they’ve got guys lining up, ready to jump through hoops.
Here’s my take: men shouldn’t commit until women prove they’re worth it. We’re the ones who decide when to lock things down, not them. I’ve stopped chasing women who expect everything—dinners, attention, time—without giving back loyalty or effort. Instead, I’m focusing on myself: hitting the gym, grinding at work, building my life. Funny thing is, when you prioritize your own growth, women start noticing you more. It’s like confidence flips the script.
Now, I know some will call this view toxic. I get it—painting women as entitled sounds harsh, and not every woman’s out to use men. Women deal with their own struggles, like balancing careers and family expectations, which isn’t easy. But let’s not ignore how the system screws men over. Take family courts: mothers get custody five times more often than fathers. That kind of bias makes you question if men are valued at all in relationships.
I’m not saying women are the enemy, but dating today feels rigged. Women have more freedom, which is great, but it’s left men scrambling to prove their worth while getting little in return. My solution? Guys, focus on being your best self and don’t settle for less than you deserve. If that means women get less of our commitment, so be it.
What’s your take? Am I onto something, or am I way off base? Let’s hear it in the comments!
Back in the day, relationships had clear roles: men provided, women supported. Now, women make their own money and have endless options on dating apps. I’ve seen stats saying women bail on over half of planned dates—56%, to be exact. As a guy, it’s frustrating when you put in effort just to get flaked on. It feels like women hold all the cards because they’ve got guys lining up, ready to jump through hoops.
Here’s my take: men shouldn’t commit until women prove they’re worth it. We’re the ones who decide when to lock things down, not them. I’ve stopped chasing women who expect everything—dinners, attention, time—without giving back loyalty or effort. Instead, I’m focusing on myself: hitting the gym, grinding at work, building my life. Funny thing is, when you prioritize your own growth, women start noticing you more. It’s like confidence flips the script.
Now, I know some will call this view toxic. I get it—painting women as entitled sounds harsh, and not every woman’s out to use men. Women deal with their own struggles, like balancing careers and family expectations, which isn’t easy. But let’s not ignore how the system screws men over. Take family courts: mothers get custody five times more often than fathers. That kind of bias makes you question if men are valued at all in relationships.
I’m not saying women are the enemy, but dating today feels rigged. Women have more freedom, which is great, but it’s left men scrambling to prove their worth while getting little in return. My solution? Guys, focus on being your best self and don’t settle for less than you deserve. If that means women get less of our commitment, so be it.
What’s your take? Am I onto something, or am I way off base? Let’s hear it in the comments!
