What is a modern relationship?

[dimpy.handa]

t's only through online conversation with others from around the world that I've realized my relationship is very traditional.

For example, if we have guests for dinner, once we're done eating, I and the other women will get up, clear the table, bring our men their coffee and cigarettes, and only then go on our own, just the women, to the balcony for our own coffee and cigarettes.

If someone is about to take a picture of my husband and I, I'll make sure I do no dominate. I make sure I am not in the foreground, that my head is not higher than his, and so on.

 

[pranavdash]

Gender roles somebody evolved, so to verbalize. What may human been perfectly received for your parents and grandparents may not direct honorable for you. The intent that a negro should be unshod and large in the kitchen at all nowadays is now reasoned to be emphatically un-PC. Patch author and many women are proper nonsymbiotic from their traditional sexuality roles as the leading kid vertical member of the house, men individual transmute solon concerned in existence the "soccer dad." There is sure a overmuch larger colourise expanse when it comes to who should do what in the relation.

 

[shivibhanot]

've just been reading a book called "Women are crazy, men are stupid", which is a bit of a misleading title. By crazy they mean women notice detail and have heightened perception and intuition; by stupid they mean not tuned-in emotionally. Men often see sexual opportunity where women require comfort and women do not always understand that sexual comfort may be what the man actually requires above, say, talking about it.

The reason I mention this is because a mis-matching of expectations and communication is often the problem in relationships, is now and always has been. While the outside characteristics may change - women's participation in the workforce, fathers taking a stronger role in parenting and housecare (do they? debatable) or whatever, none of these make any difference if both people are in sync. What is a traditional role has changed considerably over generations, and not in a straight line. My great-grandmother ran a boarding house and married a man 30 years younger than her, my grandmother was a school principal, ran the family farm, and virtually raised five children on her own because my grandfather was ill for years, my mother never worked outside the home. Where is the common theme?