SIGNS OF HIGH AND LOW EQ

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EQ stands for Emotional Quotient. It is borrowed from the term "Intelligence Quotient," and is used interchangeably with "Emotional Intelligence."


Listed below are general characteristics of people with high and low EQ. These however, are generalizations, but are helpful as guidelines. These lists include general signs of high and low self-esteem, as well as other variables which have not in fact been specifically correlated to emotional intelligence as defined by Mayer and Salovey.
SIGNS OF HIGH EQ


A person with High EQ:

 Expresses his feelings clearly and directly with three word sentences beginning with "I feel...”
 Does not disguise thoughts as feelings by the use of "I feel like...." and "I feel that...." sentences.
 Is not afraid to express feelings.
 Is not dominated by negative emotions such as: Fear, Worry, Guilt, Shame, Embarrassment, Obligation, Disappointment, Hopelessness, Powerlessness, Dependency, Victimization, and Discouragement.
 Is able to read non-verbal communication.
 Lets feelings lead to healthy choices and happiness.
 Balances feelings with reason, logic, and reality.
 Acts out of desire, not because of duty, guilt, force or obligation.
 Is independent, self-reliant, morally autonomous and emotionally resilient.
 Is intrinsically motivated and not by power, wealth, fame, or approval.
 Tends to feel optimistic, but is also realistic, and can feel pessimistic at times.
 Does not internalize failure and is not immobilized by fear or worry.
 Is interested in other people's feelings.


SIGNS OF LOW EQ


A person with Low EQ:
 Doesn't take responsibilities for his feelings; but blames others for them.
 Can't put together three word sentences starting with "I feel..."
 Can't tell why one feels the way one does, or can't do it without blaming someone else.
 Attacks, blames, commands, criticize, interrupt, invalidate, lectures, advises and judges others.
 Tries to analyze others, for example when they express their feelings.
 Often begin sentences with "I think you..."

 Sends "you messages" disguised as "I feel messages" For example, "I feel like you ."
 Lays guilt trips on others.
 Withholds information about or lies about feelings. (Emotional dishonesty).
 Exaggerates or minimizes feelings.
 Lets things build up, then they blow up, or react strongly to something relatively minor.
 Lacks integrity and a sense of conscience.
 Carries grudges; are unforgiving, plays games; is indirect or evasive.
 Doesn’t tell people where they really stand.
 Acts out feelings, rather than talking them out.
 Is insensitive to others feelings.
 Has no empathy, no compassion.
 Is rigid, inflexible; needs rules and structure to feel secure.
 Is not emotionally available; offers little chance of emotional intimacy.
 Does not consider their own future feelings before acting.
 Is insecure and defensive and finds it hard to admit mistakes, express remorse, or apologize sincerely.
 Avoids responsibility by saying things like: "What was I supposed to do? I had no choice!”
 Holds many distorted and self-destructive beliefs which cause persistent negative emotions
 May be overly pessimistic; may invalidate others' joy.
 Or may be overly optimistic; to the point of being unrealistic and invalidating of others' legitimate fears.
 Frequently feels inadequate, disappointed, resentful, bitter or victimized.
 Locks himself into courses of action against common sense, or jumps ship at the first sight of trouble.
 Avoids connections with people and seeks substitute relationships with everything from pets and plants to imaginary beings.
 Rigidly clings to own beliefs because of being too insecure to be open to new facts.
 Can tell the details of an event, and what they think about it, but can't tell how they feel about it.
 Uses intellect to judge and criticize others without realizing feeling superior, judgmental, critical, and without awareness of how one’s actions impact others' feelings.

 

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