Love yourself



Our doubt concerning our self-worth is the main obstacle to our emotional and inter-relational harmony. This doubt is the cause of our greatest fears such as being rejected, laughed at, ignored, unloved, and most of all, of being alone.

Loneliness is the disease of the age, and its cause is self-doubt. Fear of being alone is perhaps our most ancient one. It comes from the fact that in the past, he who was not accepted was ostracized from the group. In those days, that did not mean simply feeling lonely, but also being unable to survive.

Another factor that makes us fear rejection or not being accepted by others is the fear of being punished by them or by God. We have been brought up to believe in a God, whose love is conditional, depending upon whether we are perfect in His/her/Its eyes or not.

We receive messages from our parents and other important persons throughout our childhood years concerning whether and under what conditions we are good or worthy.

As children, we learn from adults that we must measure our self-worth by:

1. What others think of us.

2. The results of our efforts in school, our profession and life.

3. Our appearance

4. How we compare to others.

5. How much we know.

6. How much money we have.

7. And various others such conditions.

Our doubt of our self-worth then becomes our greatest obstacle to inner peace, harmonious communication and loving relationships. These doubts are the foundation of most of our negative emotions and relationship conflicts. If we had more self-acceptance, we would have less need to prove ourselves to others. Then we would not feel offended so frequently and we could overlook others? Negativity and be at peace with them regardless of their behavior.

 
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