Love Marriage of Arragned marriage is good

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lekshmi

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Recently I was watching a television biography of a famous female artiste who was bulimic. This made me think about arranged and love marriages from a women's perspective.

The usual opinion is that arranged marriages happen only in the east but this was not always so arranged marriages were happening even in Victorian Europe. With the industrial revolution and the end of the 2 world wars people's attitudes and perceptions started changing as women started to join the workforce and they started to demand for their rights. In England for example most of the kings and queens had arranged marriages up until King George V the present Queen Elizabeth's father broke tradition by marrying a commoner. Besides popular love lore like Soni Mahiwal, India always had a long tradition of arranged marriages. With the advent of the British, and the subsequent introduction of British education system more Indians got educated. These educated Indians in turn started to send their children to school and tried to educate their wives at home. The cause of women's education and rights were also very much espoused by our social reformers. In spite of this the institution of arranged marriage persisted. Education and exposure to the media, started to make people to think and realize they need not be bound by tradition and they can choose their own marital partners without having to rely on parents, matchmakers, relatives or having to consult astrologers. This gave rise to love marriages. Currently in our country we have arranged as well as love marriages taking place.


Please say your opinion.
 
The usual opinion is that arranged marriages happen only in the east but this was not always so arranged marriages were happening even in Victorian Europe. With the industrial revolution and the end of the 2 world wars people's attitudes and perceptions started changing as women started to join the workforce and they started to demand for their rights. In England for example most of the kings and queens had arranged marriages up until King George V the present Queen Elizabeth's father broke tradition by marrying a commoner. Besides popular love lore like Soni Mahiwal, India always had a long tradition of arranged marriages. With the advent of the British, and the subsequent introduction of British education system more Indians got educated.
 
In the blithe days of honeymoon,
With Kate's allurements smitten,
I lov'd her late, I lov'd her soon,
And call'd her dearest kitten.
But now my kitten's grown a cat,
And cross like other wives.
O! By my soul my honest Mat,
I fear she has nine lives.
-- James Boswell, Life of Johnson
 
Well first of all being a part of indian youth , i should say dat i prefer love marriages over the arranged ones ,,, but again i cannot deny the fact that this is the love which prevails.
so it does not matter weather it is the love marriage or the arranged one .. what matters how much you love and till how long you love with the same frequency....
so guys fall in love before or after marriage and love truely ....
 
I think Arrange Marriage is better as Success Ratio is far more better in Arrange rather than Love Marriage. In Love marriage, till both do not get marry, they try to show their Love to each other till the Extreme Level they reach. But after the Marriage, they know that now they are made for each - other and now nobody can apart them, And after marriage Boy try to get successful in his career to get respect in the society. At that point of time, the level of showing Love to each-other decreases. And they decide for Break-up.

In Arrange Marriage, It is one type of adjustment in the first part but in the later stage they know each-other and they take it as their duty to live a good life. Not to break-up as the respect of their Parents will be lost from the Society. So they adjust anyhow, though there is also failures but not more in comparison on Love marriage.
Another thing is that, Our Parents know much more than us. they know the Girl, her parents and their Background. What were their Grandfather & mother.! So they can have a good judgment than us. They also know that which are the factors that can affect the marriage life and their decisions.

So, according to me Arrange Marriage is far more better than Love Marriage.
 
i think it depends on an individual whether to have love marriage or arrange marraige.... as he its the best person to think good abt himself so bo point in discussing this....
 
I can accept if its a modern arranged marriage with courtship so that couple can get to knw each other before they decide if we are right for each other.
 
I think love marriage are better then arranged as the person know each other in advance whereas in arrange they have to adjust after marriage . actually arrange marriage is a type of compromise
 
be it any marriage it must be with the elders blessing and the relation must be handled with trust and love than all are the same successful.............
 
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