The last sunday,while i was having a glance through the TIMES OF INDIA, i had a look at the TIMES LIFE supplement as well..and there was a particular article which really captivated my mind..I would like to talk certain points in favour of that article and wad the article actually wanted to put forth ??
It goes as "IN SOLITARY COMPANY "....
A single person can possibly lead a far more peaceful and satisfying life, if he or she sets her mind to it than many married couples...(thats the main arena wad i would like to talk about )
how long can one keep looking for his miss perfect or for her mr perfect ??at one point of time,you will give up and stop looking for it...you would rather prefer to settle down to what you have..and those who actually take this decision at an early stage of life , seem to happily come to terms with their decision of single life....And probably there does come a time when they are so secured, comfortable and at peace with their single life , that there is no scope for other human companion to even enter their bounded space...
I m not saying that staying single, is being selfish or having a self centered life indeed...but what’s bad in it either...at the end , you jus have to answer yourselves for everything that has happened. and that’s not bad at all !!! And then u realize that your life would get even more and more meaningful and stable once u add further passions and interests to your single life...
Aint a single mother happy with her daughter and the life she chooses to live ahead...why does she even need a male in her life....she and her daughter are enough to love each other,and there small loving world doesn’t need a male to support them... I know the question that would arise here is,wont she need a companion at one point of time in her life. Wad about her emotional needs and other needs..doesnt she need a shoulder with whom she can share all her grief’s with...??
But I just have one thin to defend here, if she is happy with the life she has planned ahead..dat she is joyful in da wrld dat is inclusive of only she and her daughter..wats wrng !!!! of course she always has her friends, her family...her other interests. passions in life...and not to 4get her career,why would a question of male to enter the space would even come...yes i do agree , at times your heart would feel lonely and there would be twinges of regret of not having an elusive companion by your side, but whats the harm , at the end of the day ,u r answerable largely to yourself only .....
I m not saying people who choose singlehood are too liberative or our against the institution of marriage, its only that they have come to terms with the reality that they can make the best of an existence between a life that straddles between a satisfied fullness and an unending search for your perfect companion....
one will surely ask wad about your emotional needs , your sexual gratification or your needs of a soulmate when sickness has turned its face towards u , in your seventies....all i would love to answer to des question is "tell me how many married couples are long lasting successful conversationalists ?? even sex is disengaged from your life at des age and day of your life...and wad is the guarantee that your old children will look after you in your seventies....wad is the surety that they wont leave you alone in your fragile state , that all you are left is homeless , or maybe even without a spouse.. or whether even if your spouse will outlast you till your old age ???
As being multi dimensional creatures , we have so many needs , aspirations , desires that a life with a battery of friends will never make you feel lonely....music , arts , social interests , books , friends , your child (adopted child )..I would precisely mention, and not forgetting your career will never ever give u a chance to regret your decision of choosing a single life...and would surely not stimulate of missing , that part of being a couple....
Even beyond all this , a spark of having a companion would always twinge in your heart...there will always be a natural need to connect to someone ....to share your thoughts with someone whom u can equate yourself with....Same sex friends will be the best answer to this...and friendship surely acquires a deeper meaning at this stage of life...and even the society approves of that lastly...am not saying opposite sex friends cannot be your inclination...in fact , y not.. If you have someone with whom you can recreate the magic of friendship and if they help you to retreat the cocoon of your own existence, why not even that..??friends are the only ever lasting companion that will never leave you alone even in your single hood or marital hood....
And just because you have decided to be single , doesn’t mean that you are lonely or alone...with a life that is so full of friends , music , books ,your interests ,passions , your career; can boredom have a scope to seep in your space ???
lastly , am not against marriage or anything. its jus an individual perspective....if you dont get your perfect companion , or you have left hopes in search of him / her...or you are not ready to compromise in choosing your soulmate, you always have a single hood where you can even have a more meaningful , satisfying and a peaceful life. just you have to be determined with your decision and you will never regret and you will even be more happy then most of the married couples !!!
It goes as "IN SOLITARY COMPANY "....
A single person can possibly lead a far more peaceful and satisfying life, if he or she sets her mind to it than many married couples...(thats the main arena wad i would like to talk about )
how long can one keep looking for his miss perfect or for her mr perfect ??at one point of time,you will give up and stop looking for it...you would rather prefer to settle down to what you have..and those who actually take this decision at an early stage of life , seem to happily come to terms with their decision of single life....And probably there does come a time when they are so secured, comfortable and at peace with their single life , that there is no scope for other human companion to even enter their bounded space...
I m not saying that staying single, is being selfish or having a self centered life indeed...but what’s bad in it either...at the end , you jus have to answer yourselves for everything that has happened. and that’s not bad at all !!! And then u realize that your life would get even more and more meaningful and stable once u add further passions and interests to your single life...
Aint a single mother happy with her daughter and the life she chooses to live ahead...why does she even need a male in her life....she and her daughter are enough to love each other,and there small loving world doesn’t need a male to support them... I know the question that would arise here is,wont she need a companion at one point of time in her life. Wad about her emotional needs and other needs..doesnt she need a shoulder with whom she can share all her grief’s with...??
But I just have one thin to defend here, if she is happy with the life she has planned ahead..dat she is joyful in da wrld dat is inclusive of only she and her daughter..wats wrng !!!! of course she always has her friends, her family...her other interests. passions in life...and not to 4get her career,why would a question of male to enter the space would even come...yes i do agree , at times your heart would feel lonely and there would be twinges of regret of not having an elusive companion by your side, but whats the harm , at the end of the day ,u r answerable largely to yourself only .....
I m not saying people who choose singlehood are too liberative or our against the institution of marriage, its only that they have come to terms with the reality that they can make the best of an existence between a life that straddles between a satisfied fullness and an unending search for your perfect companion....
one will surely ask wad about your emotional needs , your sexual gratification or your needs of a soulmate when sickness has turned its face towards u , in your seventies....all i would love to answer to des question is "tell me how many married couples are long lasting successful conversationalists ?? even sex is disengaged from your life at des age and day of your life...and wad is the guarantee that your old children will look after you in your seventies....wad is the surety that they wont leave you alone in your fragile state , that all you are left is homeless , or maybe even without a spouse.. or whether even if your spouse will outlast you till your old age ???
As being multi dimensional creatures , we have so many needs , aspirations , desires that a life with a battery of friends will never make you feel lonely....music , arts , social interests , books , friends , your child (adopted child )..I would precisely mention, and not forgetting your career will never ever give u a chance to regret your decision of choosing a single life...and would surely not stimulate of missing , that part of being a couple....
Even beyond all this , a spark of having a companion would always twinge in your heart...there will always be a natural need to connect to someone ....to share your thoughts with someone whom u can equate yourself with....Same sex friends will be the best answer to this...and friendship surely acquires a deeper meaning at this stage of life...and even the society approves of that lastly...am not saying opposite sex friends cannot be your inclination...in fact , y not.. If you have someone with whom you can recreate the magic of friendship and if they help you to retreat the cocoon of your own existence, why not even that..??friends are the only ever lasting companion that will never leave you alone even in your single hood or marital hood....
And just because you have decided to be single , doesn’t mean that you are lonely or alone...with a life that is so full of friends , music , books ,your interests ,passions , your career; can boredom have a scope to seep in your space ???
lastly , am not against marriage or anything. its jus an individual perspective....if you dont get your perfect companion , or you have left hopes in search of him / her...or you are not ready to compromise in choosing your soulmate, you always have a single hood where you can even have a more meaningful , satisfying and a peaceful life. just you have to be determined with your decision and you will never regret and you will even be more happy then most of the married couples !!!
