As you have success, you have failure. They are two sides of the same coin. Failure is a fact of life. So, how does one deal with failure?
A lot of people can't help themselves from dwelling over the reasons for their failure. While it is important to learn from mistakes you've committed that may have contributed to the failure, dwelling on it excessively can be mentally exhausting.
Another classic pattern found among people who've experienced failure is the tendency to go into a shell. When you cut yourself off from friends and family and cocoon yourself in your own little shell, all you do is to magnify many times over the failure you've suffered. When you are alone and don't share your feelings, you feel the burden of failure weighing on you more. Instead, keep the channel of communication open.
You many not normally look upon failure as a good thing, but it is!! Of course, you don't wish failure upon you, but if you do fail, there are just so many things that you can learn from it. Failures always teaches a person valuable life lessons. It prepares you better and makes you a more complete person. If you look back at your many failures, you would realize that had some of those failures not happened to you, many of the good things that subsequently happened wouldn't have happened either. It is surprising that the thing that you thought at the time as the worst thing to have happened to you, turns up becoming the best thing to have happened to you.
Believe in yourself, despite your failure. Know your capabilities and have belief in them. Don't doubt yourself. Don't trash talk yourself into believing that you are no good because of your failure. Instead, keep the faith. Know what you are capable of and know that one failure doesn't change your inherent strengths.
Failure does not mean you sit back and relax or waste your time. Failure offers you a break to reassess your priorities and your goals. Make a plan of how you hope to overcome your failure and reach your goals and set about following that plan diligently.
Take the example that you are afraid of public speaking, but deep down in your mind, you got a burning desire to be an inspirational speaker.
Every time when you face the crowd, you will freeze and start shivering. Well, now you have only two choices, either you give up being your favorite inspirational speaker and running away, or you can choose to conquer your fear.
Do not pick up bad habits. I know people who have lost a job or a big account or spouse and ended up picking up smoking and other terrible habits. Instead of harming yourself, think of your future. Think of what you could do to fix the situation instead of making it worse.
