Dowry question ? indians only ? why peoples only blame men side for dowry ?...

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manishsinghon

Manish Singh
hello everyone as we all know dowry is a a bad thing in our culture . even a child can tell that. but why society blame the husband & his family for taking dowry. every one like free money. so why only to blame men side. if taking dowry is a crime so as giving dowry also.
i think it's most of the times fault of girl & her family. why to give dowry . wife's family can reject the offer of marriage if someone is asking big money. but they give dowry & later regret & blame men & society for that.
if one family gives dowry it sets a Standard for others to give dowry. or indian woman's are so weak that these women's need money to get married . won't women's have any self respect.
do u agree we should blame wife & her parents for giving dowry.
mature answers plz...
 
Huh?? I don't understand from where did this come.

I am sorry i do not agree with your reasoning . Your post in no way is "mature" as the answers you are looking for.

First of all, dowry system still exists today in some remote areas due to the illiteracy and a different mind set altogether. Every girl wants to marry someone who would respect her parents and her family as theirs and not put them into misery by asking dowry.

There have been cases where girls have been burnt alive just because their families couldn't fulfil the demands of the grooms family.

Today the literacy rate has gone high, girls want to get independent, they want to marry someone who would be a good friend and someone who would love her more than the money.

In no way can you blame the girl or her family for the current scenario regarding dowry!
 
wafadeshmukh said:
Huh?? I don't understand from where did this come.

I am sorry i do not agree with your reasoning . Your post in no way is "mature" as the answers you are looking for.

First of all, dowry system still exists today in some remote areas due to the illiteracy and a different mind set altogether. Every girl wants to marry someone who would respect her parents and her family as theirs and not put them into misery by asking dowry.

There have been cases where girls have been burnt alive just because their families couldn't fulfil the demands of the grooms family.

Today the literacy rate has gone high, girls want to get independent, they want to marry someone who would be a good friend and someone who would love her more than the money.

In no way can you blame the girl or her family for the current scenario regarding dowry!
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Wafa All i was trying to say that you cant blame single side always...If you look closely you will find end number of cases with fake charges and all. and it has be to the mindset has to be changed...I am not blaming Girls family at all. All i am saying some one have to put his foot forward...and its the society...
 
Your post said "do u agree we should blame wife & her parents for giving dowry.
mature answers plz..."

Well I believe every individual should come ahead & say a big "NO" for dowry, the society should strongly disapprove of such ill practices.

A guy should be against dowry and stand by the girl - if the guy doesn't support his parents such things won't happen. Most of the times the man blindly goes ahead and does things what his family says, however, today most of the educated men are against dowry and would not approve of the same.

A girl on the other hand should reject the family which asks for dowry because even if they somehow agree into "No Dowry" they will still torture her for it once the marriage happens. Marriage is a very strong relationship for every woman & she tries too hard to work towards it, therefore she doesn't utter a word when atrocities happen.

Therefore, I believe both the men & the women should be against dowry & make their families understand the same.
 
Dowry is an age old tradition practiced with pride in almost all parts of India.People think if the dowry tradition isn't practiced there will be a loss.Most of the time husbands are to be blamed for dowry.The reason husbands should be blamed is because when the wedding related planning is on that time the grooms side is the first to put forth the question "how much dowry will we get?" they don't feel any shame in asking or don't even think will the brides family be able to afford it.The financial situation at brides end doesn't matter for them.Only what matters is the grabbing of free wealth plus extra stuff(furniture or car). Due to pressure from grooms family the brides family has to some how agree with the terms and conditions of the grooms family.Frankly saying in context of dowry "MARRIAGE" is like a "BUSINESS DEAL".If the demands aren't fulfilled then the action begins from groom and his family.The punishment the bride gets is physical violence to an extremity of death of the bride.
so yes HUSBANDS should be blamed for dowry demands!
 
Sorry Manish and Wafa, i do not agree with both of you. As a man why the hell we do not consider women equal, they are more smart and intellect and for the women's all men's are not the rapist, and there are many men who respect women . Now, the second question, Dowry is very lethal and should be banned, manish it is not whom to blame for this tradition but we know it is wrong so, please we including women and men needs to stop it.But, the problem is as we reprimand this tradition but, when it comes our marriage we do not utter a word.But, this change is possible if we as unity fight for it. This protest do not involve any men or women it should involve humans and only humans.
 
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