Confused with Career decision

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pcy123

P Choudhury
Hi brothers & sisters ,
I am facing a very difficult situation & a mid-career crisis!I am in a big dilemma as to which line to choose!
I can join as a medical representative in a company where i worked earlier but left about 2&1/2 yrs back because the Country Head of that company was a close relative of mine(my brother-in-law). I had a troubled relation with him & the local mgmt.Firstly,I was disliking the job.2ndly,I couldnt meet sales targets mainly due to their non-cooperation.Then the co people were telling me I cant sell . I am now 35 yr old.
Further I am suffering from loneliness & my family is torturing me as I dont have good relations with my parents or with my married sister(whose husband is the Country Manager of my earlier company) .I have no emotional support. I need to marry but at the same time I dont have a job. I feel my sister & her husband are getting help from my parents & they want to throw me out of the house ,they will pull me down to a beggar in the roads.
I am presently pursuing a CCNA course(networking course from a renowned global IT training institute of India) .They are telling me I can get a job in networking if i get globally certified but they dont guarantee me any job.I have only 2 months left to finish the course but i cant concentrate on my studies.Always a pain is in my heart & I feel alone.
I have no love in my life!I have no friends either. I feel I should get a job & get married but I dont like to do any kind of job.My parents are always cursing me saying I am already a beggar & that I will die like a beggar etc various abusive words like I have to go to jail at least for one day .I feel really panicked & horrified.
I have done Bsc from Calcutta Univ in pass course (under 10+2+2 system) with Pure Science(PCM) background.Then I recently did my MBA from SMU with 70% marks.
In this situation what should I do? Should I leave this course of CCNA & again go back to pharma for the greed of quickly settling down in spite of the fact that my brother-in-law and sister is allied with my parents?
I was also thinking of doing a civil engineering diploma course leaving all these from ICE(Instt of Civil Engineers).Will Civil engg help me to get me freedom & good life?
I am confused.plz help.
Regards
 
Well before we decide of what path are we going to follow,we have to be a career oriented,so that we will not encounter such feeling.
 
Hi there,
A point comes in your education perseverance where you think you are very confused of where you are leading, please visit a career counselling. No one other than a professional help can sort the problem as they ave all the knowledge and they know where to guide you well. Talk to parent and also always take professional help rather than friends and relatives who ma not have enough knowledge to help you instead there are chances of getting mislead-ed in your way to achieve your goal that will be a lot to pay later,
 
I think you should go in computer networking field as CCNA is giving good scope in every company so don't loose hopes and be confident.
 
In the age of 35 you need to settle your job firstly to go for a marriage..


You have done work already and have an experience also. This is not difficult to get a job on your work experience. Post your resume online job offers website.. Very good you and never hope for any family and relative support..

This is life and you have to do so many things himself in the life..


Good luck..
 
The good suggestion for you to a diploma computer networking (CCNA) of three months, after it you can find easily white color job in any company. You are right that sales job is very difficult and hard job, you work like educated labor in this field.
 
Why don't you just sit and scrutinize your strength and weaknesses and then rate yourself accordingly? If you are not interested in Sales don't go for it because even if you end up going back to the old job, you will not be able to give your best.

Personal issues don't harm your job - It's your dedication that matters. So My advice would be instead of blindly following others advice just sit & think, check out if what you are doing is making you happy & then do a research if you will get a well paid job in the same field.

No girl would want to marry you if you are not settled.
 
Hello Wafa,
I agree with you some bit that India do have such a culture of hypocrisy. I am from Calcutta,West Bengal,India.
You say that no girl will marry an "unsettled unemployed guy",then tell me why even in a less modern city like Calcutta(kolkata) ,I see lots of college-going youth,just pass-out graduates getting married even when they are jobless? that too getting married good-looking girls fit to be get married to some NRI or Doctor? Tell me,tell me dear Wafa ji!!
Tell me when I see television shows in dlehi,mumbai and now even in Calcutta(if you dont believe me watch Didi No.1 in Zee bangla channel) where they show you graduation pursuing guys getting with their young married wives or to be married girlfriends along with their would be father-in-laws?
Well I am not that type of guy else I would have done move-marriage of course!! lol
Anyways thanks friends for your opinions.
I am trying to make myself established .
For now the topic is closed. I dont want any more replies Thanks to all!
Bye
 
I agree with you that there are many people in the South who get married at a very early age but not everyone believes that just like you don't.

When you get married you naturally want to provide your better half with the best possible you could, times are changing for sure but forget a girl many parents would not agree to get their daughter married to someone who is not settled. Everyone has their own opinions, that is the reason I said sit down & think for yourself if you will be happy.

I am glad that you think that being established is more important before getting married :) I wish you all the best in future & hope things out for your best!
 
Antoni48 said:
The good suggestion for you to a diploma computer networking (CCNA) of three months, after it you can find easily white color job in any company. You are right that sales job is very difficult and hard job, you work like educated labor in this field.
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Thanks Bede.I too agree. :)
 
wafadeshmukh said:
I agree with you that there are many people in the South who get married at a very early age but not everyone believes that just like you don't.

When you get married you naturally want to provide your better half with the best possible you could, times are changing for sure but forget a girl many parents would not agree to get their daughter married to someone who is not settled. Everyone has their own opinions, that is the reason I said sit down & think for yourself if you will be happy.

I am glad that you think that being established is more important before getting married :) I wish you all the best in future & hope things out for your best!
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Wafa you seem to be happy that I am unmarried and jobless I cant marry .
 
pcy123 said:
Wafa you seem to be happy that I am unmarried and jobless I cant marry .
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Believe me there is no such thing, I am only saying :) do what you feel is right & gives you happiness + satisfaction & the rest will follow!

Only your belief and trust in yourself will get you all you want & wish you good luck with the same :)
 
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