The Biography of EGO
Ego is not to be considered an emotion. If you did ; you would be as wrong as Bill Clinton when he denied having an affair with Lewinsky on National Television.
Instead I suggest we look at EGO like a computer programme. There is a reason for the same and let us explore it a bit.
This thing called EGO has many things in common with a computer programme. A simple flow chart explaining the way EGO works will be more explanatory than two paragraphs of beating around the bush, so here goes :
Gathering information pertaining to a particular issue……..
Integrating the facts
Sorting out the important from the gibberish
Judging what is good / bad from our own standards…..
Separating Holy from unholy –societal standrards
What you see yourself as?
EGO
The aforementioned is but a small tributary of the River that feeds our EGO. The EGO is always conforming to the Unconscious; I didn’t say this ….Freud Did!
Now where does EGO feature in , when we talk about Communication ?
We all have latent desires, ambitions, dreams as such; which we keep suppressing time and again; through one rational argument or the other. Sometimes this argument comes from within and on others it comes from outside (Family, friends, and colleagues). It effectively hinders our Unconscious’ freedom and inflates our EGO gigantic proportions. It has to vent out somewhere doesn’t it?
EGO on its own isn’t harmful. In fact it is essential for a human to continue on his discourse of life. Contempt is what breeds a revolution. But if there is too much of it pent up inside; the day it comes out may spell disaster for you at either personal, professional or both fronts………..
The nail I want to hammer in is that , if you are involved in the problem or your are the subject ; you think that you are incapable of finding a solution from inside. When someone does ; you deter him/her that it is not possible from the inside as a holistic view is not there to be speculated upon.
However once you have separated your self from the problem and look at it sans inhibitions ; then you can solve it ; because now instead of you or anyone from your team ; the problem is now your SUBJECT.
Thus EGO will take a backseat, enjoy the movie with Bill Clinton, make a few puns on him and go away satisfied; instead of bugging you and your colleagues.