can a women marry a youger man ???

Yes Yes Yes.... The question really is what is important in a marriage? The person who will be your best friend and life companion or the biological age? Why should age matter if both parties are willing to make sacrifices for each other as they grow together in marriage and will bring the best out of each other. Let not a tiny grain of sand be perceived as a huge boulder blocking the beautiful view that is to be.
 
I truely believe that GOD has created us (human beings) equally...

and the Almighty has given us addequate intelligence and the power to choose our life partner...

people say "LOVE IS ENTERNAL" & "LOVE IS DEVINE"

so age, sex, colour, race, religion, money, creed are of no relevence...

they are just "social" obligations which are followed blindly...

this is wat i feel... if you can keep the person who you "LOVE" happy....and stay happy with her/him... THEN DAMM THE SOCITY... cause THEY AREN'T GONNA KEEP YOU HAPPY....
 
Why do people think men and women are at the same place at the same age? Ancient societies had young women marrying older men, and the divorce rate was zero. So why can't we return to the way things should be?
 
Because women are no longer slaves who must marry who their fathers command them to marry or be beaten and abandoned. You're right about one thing though, men and women are not at the same place at the same age. Men cannot keep up sexually with a woman 10 years younger, much less 20.
 
Anon ... listen to what Frances says!

The same would apply even if the boy was about your own age.

You are really too young to make up your mind yet, and have not had sufficient experience of meeting different men.

In fact, you are only a girl yourself, and have probably only met boys, and this guy is the only man you have met.

I pray that he is honest and honourable enough to kjnow thatr you can't yet be ready to make a commitment, and allows you freedom to grow up fully
 
Tina, congratulations. Having a baby does all kinds of strange things to your body and chemical balances etc. Fear is not a healthy way to live. You need to find out the source of the fear. Is your husband giving you enough support, or are you too tired looking after your baby, and this is affecting your emotional health? I would seek support, and/or counselling and/or some medication to get you over this temporary blip in your life. Make sure the medication suits you, and stop immediately if it has bad side effects like making you suicidal as some drugs can, other drugs are miraculous and should be used to get back your chemical balance. Drugs are better than living in misery.
 
You are so young, and it would probably be most wise if you met a solid Christian guy much closer to your age to date. If later on down the road once you've matured more mentally, emotionally etc. and you meet a man who's fairly older than you and you two are completely compatable, then perhaps dating/marriage to him may be a wise decision.
 
I'm unbelieveably surprised that your parents would allow you to date a guy that much older than you when you are only 16. When I was 16, that was when I could first start to date, and I think that was a wise decision of my parents for me. Above all, make sure you choose someone who passionately loves the Lord with all His heart and obeys Him and loves Him. God bless
 
16 year old, you are very young to make a lifetime's committment to someone. Why not just be good friends for about four years. If he loves you, he will wait for you to get over your teens and have some fun with people your own age. Maybe you don't like people your own age, but still you are very young to decide about marriage yet.
 
i'm probably too young to be on this website, but i am 16 and all i'm going to say is that i love someone who is 29. he's not the most attractive guy out there, and he's not married. but i'd like to marry him. is it wrong for a 16 year old to be in love with /want to marry a 29 year old? i'd rather marry him than some hot guy my age.
 
Congratulations on your baby! What a blessing. I am like you and my husband is 23 years older than me. We have been together for 20 years and married for 17 years. Our children are ages 14 and 11. He's very youthful and the best husband I can imagine. As long as the two of you strive to love, respect, and honor each other that is what matters most. I never really thought about age as being an issue. I believe there are much more important things to consider than age differences. God bless you and hope this has been of encouragement to you.
 
There are some advantages for a young woman marrying a much older man. But there can be pitfalls. A woman who is quite young and naive can be taken advantage of easily by sociopathic types.
 
That's what happened to me. He was 20 yrs older. Neither of us were Christian at the time. But it was an unheathy, abusive, and very manipulative relationship. He frequently threatened to kill me in bizarre ways.
 
There are some advantages for a young woman marrying a much older man. But there can be pitfalls. A woman who is quite young and naive can be taken advantage of easily by sociopathic types.

That's what happened to me. He was 20 yrs older. Neither of us were Christian at the time. But it was an unheathy, abusive, and very manipulative relationship. He frequently threatened to kill me in bizarre ways.

I escaped with minor injuries. But if I had been older or more experienced, I might have seen through his deceptively charming ways in time to avoid marriage to him.
 
congratulations on the new baby! :) Yes, I can imagine you must need encouragement too, this must be a very challenging time in your life, God bless you dear. What are your fears you've been dealing with about the future? Praying for you tonight, God bless you, Mary
 
hi my name is tina and i am married to a man who is 24 years older than me .we have been together 5 years married 2 we have so much in common but here lately i have been stricken with fear about our future by the way we just had a baby .could anyone give some encouragement.
 
Honestly, if you are having all these problems with the age gap, you need to break up. Age gap relationships are not for everyone.

You start by listing some good qualitites. If you can't handle the view of 'society', you owe it to this man to end the relationship ASAP.
 
I am seeing a man who is 20+ yrs older. He is caring,kind and devoted. He has children older than me, and if we marry and have kids, his grandkids will be older than ours. People think he is my father. That's very unsettling to me and downright creepy. I can't understand why age doesn't matter. I don't like this age difference at all. So why should I not care? He doesn't care at all. Doesn't anybody feel the way I do?
 
I believe that God has the one person for each of us that we are meant to be with...soul mates. Age doesn't matter (as long as both parties are consenting adults), race, nor religion. You don't know what package your soul mate will be in when he/she is delivered to you.
Women mature faster than men.
 
I am 32 and my love is 59. We're both compatible, we have common interests, he makes me feel protected and secure and I make him feel young and vibrant. We both love each other. Money is NOT an issue. I didn't even know how old he was until 8 months into the relationship. Age is just a number.
 
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