Arranged or Love Marrage ???

arranged or love..... in a marriage understanding and giving each other space, yet being comfortable with each other is important. After that whether it is love or arranged.... doesnt make any difference.
 
Love marriage....as the love before marriage is a lifetime thing. After marriage it's probably same in both cases.....doesn't make much of a difference.
 
God's design for marriage is that husbands should love their wives. Without love, marriage can be real nightmare in the event of differences between husband and wife. But love covers a multitude of sins. In our Zambian culture now, there are no longer arranged marriages. Men marry on the basis of love.
 
it totally depends on UNDERSTANDING between the two individuals. one thing that should be understood is that u should always try to ADJUST. if u do so love marriage or arrange doesn't matter
 
Hey!

For any marriage or relationship to work, its not necessary that situations wil favour us.

If the relationship is true, it will succeed and U need not compromise for anything.

Yeah, there should be Adjustments, Trust, Confidence, Understanding and Love.

If the feelings are true, the relationship will work out despite of indifferences.

I prefer LOVE MARRIAGE as I wanna share my life with the person I will marry.

LOVE is true and innocent feeling on this earth and I wanna experience it.

D only key to work out any relationship is :

"BE 100%. GIVE UR EVERLASTING COMMITMENT AND DON'T EXPECT ANYTHING FROM THE OTHER PERSON."

YOUR life will be rocking!!!![:)]
 
If u can find true love...then there is nothing like it!!...

Go for love marriage then!!.

But again u have take into consideration the circumstances and the societal pressures....overall man is a social animal!!...aint it!!.

Some ppl are dissappointed overall luking at the conditions of how love marriages end up being!!... Rarely are those successful!!!..

SO make an informed choice!!:SugarwareZ-187:
 
i personally dont think that from now on, the marriages will last for years and years as our parents. Life is more complicated and men and women are more competitive.
 
Definately Love. Have had a love marriage with my college sweetheart and its been 10 years of happy married life now.

Regards,
Taurian1505
 
I am American, but I have Nepalese friends, where arranged marriages are popular.

I don't know where you are.

One of my friends, her parents have promised her she can pick her own husband. The others basically have been told if they find a love match before their parents find a match, that's fine. But if they haven't found a love match by then, they have to marry the man their parents found for them.

I don't know what to tell you, but I do want to say you can have a love marriage... if you find someone to love...

But there are also benefits to arranged marriages-- far less divorce, for one thing, because both of you come in knowing you have to work on it.

Loving someone is wonderful in a marriage, and I think necessary (if not from the beginning, love MUST develop to have a healthy marriage). But sometimes, people think love will cure all their marriage woes, and don't actually WORK at their marriage. Where as couples in arranged marriag

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hi every1, dis is ma 1st interaction wd u guys ...so, 1st of ol namaskar to ol d intellects...nw, before givin ma opinion i wuld like to ask smthng...guys!! hve u seen ur future ??? NO, uncertainities r alwys thr...who knws d 1 u loved, betray/ starts ignoring u after marriage...so, thr's no point arguing, "take lyf as it comes " ...be prepared , be tough to brave ne contingency...n leave d rest on god!!!

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hi every1, dis is ma 1st interaction wd u guys ...so, 1st of ol namaskar to ol d intellects...nw, before givin ma opinion i wuld like to ask smthng...guys!! hve u seen ur future ??? NO, uncertainities r alwys thr...who knws d 1 u loved, betray/ starts ignoring u after marriage...so, thr's no point arguing, "take lyf as it comes " ...be prepared , be tough to brave ne contingency...n leave d rest on god!!!

:SugarwareZ-141::
 
This is one of those topics which I find have an equal footing.
Consider this... A love marriage
BEFORE MARRIAGE:An unmarried couple find solace in the arms of each other,they feel they are lucky enough to have found each other. Each knows what kind of a person the other is.
AFTER MARRIAGE:Responsibilities creep in. Time becomes a scarcity. As each person know the other person well, he/she assumes the other will handle the stress well, will understand whatever problem there is. That is miscommunication. As days pass by, the distance between them incraeses. This is one of the reasons why most marriages dont work. Lack of communication!!

Now take this.....An arranged marriage
BEFORE MARRIAGE:Both guy & gal are tensed about how the other person would be.
Being unaware creates a feeling of curiosity. And each person tries to take each step cautiously.
AFTER MARRIAGE:The couple communicates well. Tries to understand the other well enough not to hurt their feelings or to take anything for granted.

Point is...India is a very good example of arranged marriages working well. I'm aware that there are families where the wife does not raise her displeasure because of societal pressures. Yet USA where mostly love-marriages happen record the most number of divorces. The conclusion...love or arranged..niether can work without the consent of the parties involved.
 
Love marriage Arranged with the consent of both family's because without their consent everything get's messed up. Or simply arrange marriage and then love but here also love is important for successful and happy married life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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