19 traits of joyous people

[swatiraohnlu]

Trait 1: Autonomous

"If you have postponed your wants, your dreams, and yourself every day in some job or pursuit that you no longer love (if you ever loved it in the first place), the time has come to do what you truly want and are meant to do. And not just because you have earned it, but because you will achieve far more for yourself and, very likely, for others."



Trait 2: Loving

"Real love isn't dependent -- it isn't mired in need or compulsion. Real love is interdependent, allowing each person the fullest expression of themselves free of need or demand."



Trait 3: Ethical

"The good among the great understand that every choice we make adds to the strength or weakness of our spirits... And that is every human's life work, to construct an identity bit by bit, to walk a path step by step, to live a life that it is worthy of something higher."

 

[swatiraohnlu]

Trait 4: Unaffected

"The good among the great [often possess] an ability to ignore, even withstand group and societal pressures, to think, act, and be unaffected. This independence of thought and being makes a profound difference in one's impression of and response to the world and is thus closely linked to one's perceptions of reality and reactions to it."



Trait 5: Private

"The fundamental reason that the good among the great don't get suckered into overexposure is that they simply don't need the recognition. These are self-assured and whole personalities."



Trait 6: Detached

"Strong psyches remain unruffled by the events that rattle the average person. This ability to remain centered makes the good among the great resilient."



Trait 7: Experimental

"[The good among the great] don't just accept constant change -- the welcome it, even play with it...They want to stimulate their senses as well as their imaginations."

 

[swatiraohnlu]

Trait 8: Realistic

"The good among the great are well aware of their shortcomings because they continuously asses them and work to compensate or overcome them. They also find partners, professional and personal, who complement their strengths and compensate for their weaknesses."



Trait 9: Laid Back

"Independence of environment give the good among the great just enough distance from their circumstances that the can see and accept life's paradoxes. They are drawn to rather than repelled by life's mysteries."



Trait 10: Performance and Process Oriented

"The best among us not only deliver great products, services, and performances but also take great pride and joy in the doing."



Trait 11: Egalitarian

"The psychologically strong see through the superficial trappings of each person to the being within. They are largely unconcerned with hierarchy, with issues of race, gender, age, ethnicity or social standing... they treat everyone as if we've all been created equal, because in their minds, we have been."

 

[swatiraohnlu]

Trait 12: Jolly

"Exceptional individuals prefer a philosophical rather than a barbed or self-absorbed type of humor... Healthy, happy people laugh easily, and they laugh for all the right reasons: a silliness and tension relievers, at harmless slapstick and everyday absurdities."



Trait 13: Empathic

"Those who empathize with others not only see more, but see specific situations in a clearer and more nuanced way because they react as a variety of people would. These added insights give them a huge advantage when it comes to anticipating others' wants, needs, and opinions."



Trait 14: Dutiful

"[The good among the great] feel that they have a duty and responsibility to help people who are less fortunate than they are. They are strong and self-sufficient, so in general, they need not focus on their own issues."

 

[swatiraohnlu]

Trait 15: Appreciative

"The best human beings are acutely aware of pain and loss, and know that destiny and disease can deal a body blow at any time. This does not make them fearful. It makes them grateful for every day that is health and safe."



Trait 16: Creative

"Maslow believed that we are all born creative people, that creativity is second nature to us...Then, somewhere along the way we're hemmed in, routinized, restricted... Exceptional adults recover their natural creativity by unleashing the unadulterated person within."



Trait 17: Exuberant

"Those who live authentic, expressive lives are magnetic, powerful, and infectious personalities. If you can't have fun then others will wonder how whole you are, even how true you are, and they're less less apt to be attracted to you or your ideas."



Trait 18: Joyous

"Self-actualizing people are well aware that they're on the right track because not only are they succeeding, they're happy."



Trait 19: Transcendent

"A transcendent moment is one of rapture. It's an ecstatic sliver of exquisite calm and focus where time seems to stand still. When a person is having such an experience, the individual is all sorts of ways excels at what he or she does... To have a life where you regularly have these experiences, you will likely have to devote yourself to some great or good cause."

 

[swatiraohnlu]

Source

 

[dimpy.handa]

In The Good Among The Great: 19 Traits of the Most Admirable, Creative, and Joyous People, Donald Van de Mark relies heavily on the teachings of psychologist Abraham Maslow to illustrate how a small minority of the world's mega-achievers are exceedingly aware, egalitarian, empathic, descent, and happy. As he points out, they are loved by their associates, staff and competitors and they deeply care about others and often use their positions and influence to help the large community. What makes them tick and do they have distinct personality traits?